a new beginning. or not.

manipulation

manipulative
adj. skillful in influencing or controlling others to your own advantage

I never expected to have someone this manipulative at home. I thought she was just immature. But her actions yesterday disgusted me totally.

It started off at lunch at dad's. Before lunch, she asked "Daddy, have you been to AMK hub. It's a new shopping centre." Daddy, who spends most of his time in China of cos said NO. So she proceeded on to say "oh, daddy, later i bring you there. i wanted to bring you there yesterday but jie jie said you weren't back yet." (i unwittingly disrupted her plan cos i thought daddy would be back one day later than he was..) anw, daddy said "not today, i'm very tired and the car is still in the workshop" and to absolute surprise and disgust she actually said "go.. i'm ONLY FREE TODAY." I didn't know that nowadays parents have to fit into their children's time slot.

During lunch she finally subtly made her move. She said "My phone sucks. I need a new phone." Too bad, brother and I caught it immediately and we both said "NO!". It was left at it.

Then when we were gonna go home, the real action came. She said to daddy in a sickeningly sweet voice "daddy, i dun care.. i'm gonna drag you to amk hub." With that she dragged out of the house. Knowing her real motives i exclaimed "she wants you to buy a phone for her!" Daddy responded by saying "No, i'm not going to buy a phone for you" to her. Then she just laughed it off and said "no lah, not going to buy phone, i just want to bring you there and (spend time with you)" So hesistatingly, daddy being daddy said ok to her.

Who knows, she came back with a new 500 over dollar walkman sony ericsson, presumbly from sony ericsson cos i saw lots of brochures afterwards at dad's place. Daddy took the initiative to talk to me about it. He said "Your mei mei just ka me yi da dao(one big knife)" I just said "YAH! i warned you. How come you still didn't listen?" He said "YAH, i know. When i was in China, she said she missed me. Then i already knew." And if you know her, she never ever contacts my dad when he's overseas. Even when she's back she can't really bothered. It must have been love. Dad knew what she was up to but still conceeded. He even said he would give me 500 in cash - the price of the phone. But it's not about the money! It's about someone's character.

I can't help but be disgusted at her actions. Call yourself a christian who loves God. I always believed that knowing God will change you. Makes you a better person. And i've seen in manifested in the lives of many, myself included few years ago. But i can't see any of that in her. All i can see is a self righteous, manipulative and immature person. People have told me that I should learn to accept her. I have tried. But i can't seem to do it. Esp when things like this happen. Please teach me how to.

posted by just me @ 6:01 PM